Comments on: Jedi Mind Trick: How can we make this happen?

By: Sarah Malinowski

Sarah Malinowski — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 21:23:43 +0000

It works. Really. Thanks for the info. :)

By: Tari Nz

Tari Nz — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:12:11 +0000

I find this kind of communication (in the professional environment) relies on extremely manipulative language. (Playing off someone's discomfort whether personal, cultural, what have you, of saying "No".)

It screams, "I'm entitled! I'm gonna get my way!"

It assumes that something is going to happen in the way YOU want it to without any room for DIALOGUE. It also seems egocentric, immature, pushy, and self-absorbed. Not to mention that it is often culturally inappropriate.

If I were interested in a raise, I would phrase it this way:

"I'd sure like a raise if it's possible, and I'd be open to discussing how to get there."

Now, if I were a person with limited social skills and a great need to come onto someone in a hipster bar, well, yeah. I'd try it.

By: Howard Fore

Howard Fore — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 17:59:38 +0000

Check out something called QBQ or Question Behind the Question. Presented in two very short very powerful books by John Miller. It’s similar, focusing you on asking questions that are targeted at solving problems rather than placing blame.

By: Anelly

Anelly — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 10:00:24 +0000

I agree that part of our actions and decisions depends on the way the other person is asking, or is presenting the situation.

By: Nathalie Lussier

Nathalie Lussier — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 05:07:44 +0000

While I think some people might abuse these ideas, they are very useful when used in the right way.

I know that when someone asks for a link, or some other request (like flat out asking for money), I always feel gross afterward. But if they were to ask in a "how can I make this happen" kind of way... it might not be so bad. At least it means they are willing to work for it.

By: Brent

Brent — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 20:49:33 +0000

I’m going out tonight and approach attractive men by saying, “I’d like to be your boyfriend. How can we make this happen?” I think it might work.

By: Shalu Wasu

Shalu Wasu — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 11:21:28 +0000

Very nice! The first approach saps away one’s confidence and the second one makes the other person a partner! shalu

By: Michael Sliwinski

Michael Sliwinski — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 01:50:57 +0000

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By: Sherman Boyd

Sherman Boyd — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:43:16 +0000

Moar tricks: when shaking, offer your hand palm facing down. This establishes your dominance by forcing your ‘opponent’ into a submissive palm up position giving you a mental advantage in the tough negotiations to follow.

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:49:21 +0000

"I want to be your boyfriend. How can we make this happen?"

Sleazy.